Categories Culture & Politics Untitled Wednesday, June 15, 2016Author Stephanie Drenka7 Comments on Untitled Had this past Sunday been any other ordinary year, I would have settled down in the evening to watch the Tony Awards and bask in the musical theater glory that once consumed my life. Even though I chose a less showtunes-filled career path, I still love living vicariously every year during The Tonys. Of course, I watched again this year, but instead of feeling joy in the watching of it, I sat alone in my living room quietly sobbing so that my husband (who had escaped to the bedroom having reached his fill of showtunes within the first 15 minutes) wouldn’t be worried. Naturally, I cried as Lin-Manuel Miranda gave his poignant acceptance sonnet and felt tears welling up at every reference to the horrific Pulse nightclub shooting, but the moment when I lost my composure completely was during Sara Bareilles and Jessie Mueller’s performance of “She Used To Be Mine” from the musical, Waitress. It’s not simple to say That most days I don’t recognize me That these shoes and this apron That place and it’s patrons Have taken more than I gave them It’s not easy to know I’m not anything like I used to be The first verse of this song haunted me. I thought about the self that I used to be– one who was reckless, just enough— and it seems like someone else’s life. Nine years ago around this same time, I was president of Depaul’s Asian Cultural Exchange and organizing a Loving Day event with Spectrum, the university’s LGBTQA student organization. Something that I had noticed in my short time exposed to the Asian American community was that being a minority didn’t always supersede prejudice. I wanted to remind people that it wasn’t so long ago that it was against the law for White people to intermarry with other races or back in the days of the Exclusion act when the law against interracial marriage was specifically directed towards Chinese people. I urged my community to support our LGBTQ friends “because no matter how much heart and effort we put into whatever cause we are fighting for, if we choose to overlook the suffering of others, the blood, sweat, and tears that we have dedicated to preserving our human dignity will have been for nothing.” To this day, the proudest moment of my life was when ACE was nominated and won DePaul’s student organization of the year award: This year’s winner has either sponsored or co-sponsored multiple programs that support DePaul’s mission. They tried to make the ideal of dignity and inclusiveness a reality through their programs and over the year have moved from more of a social organization to one that has brought the community together through various educational efforts. Some highlights of this organization’s contributions include the following: The organization hosted, Koffee Meets Kulture, an open mic night that brought together members of different organizations representing the various communities at DePaul. This organization also co-sponsored a social justice advocacy workshop with OMSA for Human Dignity Week. This organization also took it upon themselves to be proactive, expressing their solidarity and respond to the tragedy at Virginia Tech by drafting a campus wide letter offering opportunities for dialogue and resources to deal with the tragedy. Throughout this year, this organization has strived to break down barriers and facilitate exchange among students at DePaul. They have shown a commitment to Vincentian values in action and provided opportunities for the campus community to learn from one another. This was the same year that another shooting had rocked the country. I felt a disturbing sense of déjà vu these past few days, seeing how there has been so much focus on the Orlando nightclub shooter’s religious beliefs/ethnicity. After the media’s attention on the Virginia Tech shooter’s Korean heritage, there were incidents reported of Asian Americans being harassed and Korean community leaders that were asked by the press or felt compelled to apologize on the shooter’s behalf. Policymakers were concerned about the potential impact of the shooting on South Korea’s relations with the United States. In the letter I wrote on behalf of ACE in response to the shootings, I stated that “we would like clarify that the Asian Pacific American community shares this catastrophic loss with the entire country and can not be expected to respond in any separate way from the rest of America. Our wish now is for the Asian Pacific American community to stand together with our fellow Americans in efforts to overcome hate, violence, and inhumanity in these coming days of mourning and reflection. We hope to promote education and awareness regarding issues such as mental health, gun violence, and intolerance.” This week, I read a statement from Nihad Awadthe, executive director of the Council on American-Islamic Relations (CAIR), “For many years, members of the L.G.B.T.Q.I. community have stood shoulder to shoulder with the Muslim community against any acts of hate crimes, Islamophobia, marginalization, and discrimination. Today we stand with them shoulder to shoulder. The liberation of the American Muslim community is profoundly linked to the liberation of other minorities – blacks, Latinos, gays, Jews, and every other community. We cannot fight injustice against some groups and not against others. Homophobia, transphobia, Islamophobia – we cannot dismantle one without the other.” (#micdrop) If we don’t learn from history, we are doomed to repeat it. That girl I used to be– no… the one who is still inside, but has been conditioned after years of adjusting to living in a conservative state again to be quiet and complacent– cannot remain silent anymore. I’m tired of seeing hateful words or fear-mongering political memes on Facebook from friends and even family during a time when our first priority should be outpouring love to our LGBTQ community who has experienced not only devastating loss from the shooting, but ongoing discriminatory policies and attacks on their fundamental rights. A decade ago, it would never have taken me this long to speak out publicly. I wouldn’t have wondered if my coworkers, family, or friends would think differently towards me. I had confidence in my convictions and belief in myself. It’s time for me to stop reminiscing about the girl I used to be, and become someone who that girl could be proud of today.