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Stephanie Drenka


A Fresh Start

A Fresh Start

“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing… I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.” (F. Scott Fitzgerald)

Happy New Year! As 2016 ends, so does another chapter in my life. Two weeks ago, I resigned from my position at rewardStyle and accepted an offer from a Dallas non-profit organization to be their digital marketing manager.

This blog, beyond its outfit of the day posts or gadget reviews, has been my personal journey towards self-actualization. I’ve been rereading words I’ve written in the past (for example, here and here), and noticed a common theme– change. The last five years have been a struggle to find my place in the world. When I turned 30, I made a resolution to simplify my life. I started embracing minimalism externally, developing capsule wardrobes and making an effort to keep our house clutter-free. But inside, my thoughts were still a maze of cognitive dissonance that no amount of tidying-up could remedy.

You may be thinking… “What’s your damage, Stephanie?” And I don’t mean to imply that I’m in any way ungrateful for my opportunities or circumstance, only that there was something palpably missing that couldn’t be fixed with any thing. When it came down to it, I just didn’t feel like myself anymore.

Whenever I find myself at professional crossroads, I try to think back on my time working at DePaul’s Career Center, where I first learned that my Myers-Briggs type was an INFJ. I’ve known since my junior year of college what type of career would likely make me happiest, but I think, along the way, I prioritized my perception (or perhaps my perception of others’ perception) of success before real happiness.

The INFJ is a special individual who needs more out of a career than a job. They need to feel as if everything they do in their lives is in sync with their strong value systems – with what they believe to be right. Accordingly, the INFJ should choose a career in which they’re able to live their daily lives in accordance with their deeply-held principles, and that supports them in their life quest to be doing something meaningful. (INFJ Careers)

AsianWeek magazine continues to taunt me from the journalistic grave, asking when I’m going to fulfill my obligation to change the world. Unfortunately, in this world, there are so very many things that are out of my control (like you-know-who being president), so the best I can do is take F. Scott Fitzgerald’s advice and try to live a life of which I’m proud… be the change.

Happiest New Year to all of you. I hope that 2017 brings peace, happiness, and fulfillment for everyone. I strongly urge my Dallas readers to visit this amazing mural in person someday, and follow my talented friend & the artist @allikdesign for more inspiration. Special thanks to Sevi for snapping these pics!

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7 comments

  • Lee

    January 1, 2017

    Can’t wait to hear more about this new career. Kudos to you for taking this leap of faith! I know whatever you do, you will do an amazing job. Thanks for sharing your journey with us.

    • Stephanie Drenka

      January 1, 2017

      Thanks so much, Lee!! We’ll have to catch up over the holidays! Happy 2017 🙂

  • nico

    January 1, 2017

    I really needed to read this today. Thank you for sharing your journey with the rest of us ~ we all need each other like crazy!

    • Stephanie Drenka

      January 1, 2017

      Miss you so much already, Nico. We were definitely brought into each other’s lives for a reason– this is just the beginning!! Happy New Year to you and Chase! See you soon <3

  • Caroline moore

    January 1, 2017

    So excited to see what you do at Big Thought! Keep us informed fairyblog mother! ??

  • Heather N Webb

    January 1, 2017

    I turned 30 a few weeks ago and simplicity has been weighing heavily on my mind. I love how you’ve embraced it and made changes to reflect that in your life. I’m totally interested in a capsule wardrobe and minimizing what I have.

    Also, congratulations on the new position! You are going to rock it <3

  • cathy

    January 2, 2017

    Congratulations on the start of a new chapter, and one that makes you feel like you! Proud of you for doing what your heart was telling you. I hope to see you, and if you ever miss helping the blogger, I would love to hire you in your spare time to help me. You are the smartest techie girl I know…just brilliant!

    Best of luck, Stephanie! I hope the non-profit knows how lucky they are to have you! You are a special one!!! xoxo

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